Being comfortable is a wonderful thing. We value comfort, in our homes, our cars, our
clothes (especially our shoes), our communities, our relationships, our
jobs. We get angry and resentful when
things upset our apple-cart of comfort. It
is much too easy to become complacent in our lives. Everything’s smooth, everything’s normal, no disruptions
to ruin our day, our week, our lifetime.
And we like it that way.
I had a boss who once accused me of being averse to
change. I told him I had no problem with
change, as long as it made sense.
Changing work procedures for the sake of change, rather than to make
things more efficient or profitable, made no sense to me. He did not like my response. But having worked in the same field for 25
years, I had a pretty good idea of where his change was going to put us 6
months down the line…and it did…and it wasn’t productive, efficient or
profitable.
Those who know me best never know what to expect of me
next. They often refer to me as a renaissance
woman. Sometimes people ask me how I could possibly do all the things I have done in the last 20 years. I admit, it’s not always comfortable to put
yourself out there or try new things.
When my first book was published, a friend asked me how I found the time
to write a book with work and home and kids.
She said that work and home and kids were all she had time for, so she
had no other interests. She had no idea
what she would do with her time if she ever lost her job. My response was that there were not enough
hours or days left in my lifetime for all the things I would try if I had that
extra 40 hours a week in which to do them.
The fact of the matter is, without change, we wilt. Change is as necessary to a full life as
water and sun are to growing plants.
Everyone needs to change and grow, to learn and think, to read and
imagine. Without these things, we may be
comfortable, but we are not taking advantage of all the creative gifts we’ve
been given. When you expand your
universe, you expand yourself. It may
not be a comfortable expansion, but in the end, you will be better off than you
were when it started.
Then there is involuntary change. When your universe thinks you need a boot in
the butt, something inevitably happens that you don’t like. You get angry and resentful and feel that you’ve
been dealt a harsh blow. And it’s
true. But if you wallow in those
feelings of anger and self-pity, you don’t allow yourself to grow...you don’t
allow yourself to think clearly and come up with a plan for handling the change
that was thrust on you. You can either
say “Woe is me” or you can take stock of your life and make some voluntary
changes of your own. Chances are you
were way past due in kicking up some dust in your comfortable life.
I know a lot of people right now, myself included, are on
the receiving end of that kind of involuntary change. It’s about as far from comfortable as you can
get. It feels as if all the security you’ve
had for these many years has been ripped away from you. How we react to that change will define our
lives for months and perhaps years to come.
I thought to myself, for the first time in my life (and
for a few short seconds), Mom never had this problem. Dad worked and Mom stayed home and kept the
house and kids in order. She never
complained and she did everything she did the very best she could because she
was doing it for those she loved. Dad
brought home the money and all was well with the world. Then I just shook my head. I am not my mother. I need to be out there working, doing old things,
trying new things, meeting new people, writing new stories and singing new
songs.
I’m not too old to change. I’m not too old to realize the value of not
getting complacent or comfortable, in my life or in my job. And I’m a firm believer that all things
happen together for good. Even when something
seems bad or hopeless at the moment, there is a greater, far-reaching
purpose. And I, for one, am willing to find out
what that is!
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